tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449645734341845460.post8005869686829565848..comments2022-11-21T16:09:59.057-08:00Comments on Winter With Zoe: Part II, Day 72: Good GriefNatalia Singerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09503578469055410701noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449645734341845460.post-65011267770579265932012-08-15T03:13:14.316-07:002012-08-15T03:13:14.316-07:00Thanks so much for writing about Halley here, Hert...Thanks so much for writing about Halley here, Hertap. I know from experience that you are a dog-whisperer with others' dogs too, and I hope your pup finds ways to visit you that give you solace too.Natalia Singerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09503578469055410701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449645734341845460.post-84206585039648306002012-08-14T10:30:33.573-07:002012-08-14T10:30:33.573-07:00Sometimes I sense movement in my peripheral vision...Sometimes I sense movement in my peripheral vision and trick myself into thinking it's Halley. I'm not sure what it really is; movement memory? I just had an eye test and there's nothing out of the ordinary with my eyes. It's just a way to get her back for an instant, and I'm happy for it.<br />I'm hyper-aware of other people's dogs too. I think I love them all now. To put my hand on their warm back for a moment, or exchange a few oohey words with a sweet furry love, that's a little solace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449645734341845460.post-43713197009619794402012-08-14T05:19:17.661-07:002012-08-14T05:19:17.661-07:00Dear Janice, Thank you so much for these lovely, c...Dear Janice, Thank you so much for these lovely, consoling words. I'm glad to know you still have all these things--ashes, collars, toys--but that you have the comfort that goes with the part that is "less solid and more lasting." I crave solidity perpetually, because it's so much part of the loss--the physicality of my pup, her furry there-ness. But I do find comfort in just talking to her and looking at photos and remembering. You're so kind to write--thank you again.Natalia Singerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09503578469055410701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449645734341845460.post-26834755152208840862012-08-13T17:14:20.177-07:002012-08-13T17:14:20.177-07:00Natalia, I'm always awed by the way you captur...Natalia, I'm always awed by the way you capture the emotional experience of loving a dog.When Barney was in his last days, I would look at him and try to capture the very essence of him so that I would have something to hold onto when he was no longer there. I had the ashes, the collars, the toys. Six years later, I still have them. But I don't need them so much now. Instead, I speak of him, sometimes dream of him, tell his new "brother" how Barney would have done this or that. It's an odd comfort, to be able to speak of him as if he is still a part of my life and to realize that indeed, he is. Grieve as long and as hard you need to. It is part of the alchemy of transforming love into something both less solid and more lasting.Janice Garyhttp://www.janicegary.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449645734341845460.post-52752551518222487532012-08-12T08:13:36.844-07:002012-08-12T08:13:36.844-07:00Hi Sara. I love this dream! Actually, we're ...Hi Sara. I love this dream! Actually, we're thinking of a little trip to France in the spring if I ever pay off my debt, and I'll go looking for sage and white items and multicolored shoes. Thanks so much much for writing here, and always. xxNatalia Singerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09503578469055410701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449645734341845460.post-15235039514311768002012-08-11T19:30:10.338-07:002012-08-11T19:30:10.338-07:00Hi, Nat. (Good. Really wonderful.)The nicest photo...Hi, Nat. (Good. Really wonderful.)The nicest photos. I rarely remember my dreams, but last night I did and it was of you. You were in a new outfit. a sage green seed stitch winter hat, with a white/neutral scarf, maybe seed stitch too. A nice coat- winter wool, pale, and some really nice shoes that were multicolored. Where would you be in such an outfit? France in the fall? Where ever or when ever, your pals are seeing you out the corner of our eyes, and it is even nicer to read your new post. I'm so glad you had Zoe in real life and have her in your spirit now. Keep me posted!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12801858119721442559noreply@blogger.com